Are You Comfortable In Your Own Skin?

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Do you feel comfortable in your own skin? I know that sounds like a crazy question-but think about it. Do you really feel comfortable with who you are-in any situation-with any person...in your own skin? My girlfriend poured her heart out to me last night...she's struggling with whether or not to postpone a pending divorce...the final signing comes Friday. So we talked...and talked and talked...and after she unloaded all the problems she has with her estranged husband...all the reasons why they may never make it...she still isn't sure whether or not she wants the divorce. When she gets right down to it...her wavering feelings have less to do with him...and alot to do with her. Over the last year and a half she has changed...for the better--grown up...and given away some of the old emotional baggage that weighed her down...that made her feel uncomfortable in her own skin.

Oh sure-world war II had begun building long before their separation and it exploded into a full fledged battle afterward...They have both launched arsenals of weapons at one another that should have annihilated both of them...they have both been scarred by the wounds of war...and they're still hurting...But my friend still feels this knowing-- somewhere in the deepest core of her being that Love-yes the almighty power weapon...Love -is still lingering...lulling her into submission to the possibility...that a full fledged union...a healing can take place. The more we talked the more she came to the understanding that-after all the therapy, group meetings and self reflection-she still does not feel comletely comfortable in her own skin... A nagging feeling is holding her hostage to the uncanny possibility that maybe-she is partly responsible for blocking the reunion that her soon to be ex says he desperately wants!

She says she does not feel comfortable in her own skin around him...but- WHAM! It suddenly donned on her that maybe her feelings toward him-- are a reflection of her own shadow...issues she needs to face! By the end of our conversation she decided to give it a go...to get out of God's way and let a power greater than herself launch an elite weaponry rooted in Love-that in the end-always wins!

I read once that "we take on the strength of that which we overcome."
It takes a lot of courage to overcome our issues...to admit that we're not so perfect after all...that we may need some muscle toning exercises to tighten our sagging skin, so it fits better and we feel more comfortable in it..I don't know what will happen with my friend and her husband- the father of her youngest son...But I believe...if she continues to work on herself -that if he also works on himself...and the two of them begin working together on their relationship...with real honesty and compassion that is rooted in Love...if they concentrate on giving today their best...the future will take care of itself...and before she knows it...her skin will fit just fine...like a soft, leather glove!

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