DIVORCE PART II
"Divorce is not an option."
Those words from one of my favorite actors, Will Smith. He told an interviewer that this time round...the "D" word is not in his vocabulary...and that attitude has worked well with his second wife, Jada Pinkett Smith.
I Love that attitude of gratitude...and I Love hearing it from a man. Because apparently the guys are going to need some help. The stats I'm looking at show more and more women consider divorce an option. According to one study commissioned by the AARP 66% of women in their 40's, 50's and beyond are hitting mid life and maneuvering themselves into a new way of life that no longer includes their men. Boredom, issues with sex and emotional distance are key factors...But long term abuse, infidelity and their husband's unresolved addiction problems still drive the women to court.
These days lots of women don't depend on their spouse for support like their peers in the "olden days"...So it's easier to send their partners packing...much to the shock of the guys who are often blindsided. The gals wait until the kids are older to minimize the damage...and maximize the rationalization that they've stuck it out long enough.
But here's the thing...the impact is never isolated...The men go into mourning...the grandparents into shock and the older children get the wind knocked out of them wondering, "If mom and dad can't make it-who can?"
Any way you look at it-from the guys to the gals-the messes we make in our marriages lead to the same, sad scenario...The dissolution of the family...and the erosion of the emotional fabric of our nation.
Breaking commitments breaks hearts and breaks down the backbone of society...Because once you accept a defeatist, give up attitude...the steady decay continues to erode every aspect of our lives.
There is only one solution...God...The healer of hearts and the hope for the hopeless. No matter how bad it gets, how hopeless you feel...God can and will-absolutely make things better...and better than you ever dreamed possible.
Simply, open your heart and surrender your will to his higher power...and the perfect manifestation of divine Love will be revealed to you and to your spouse in ways that you cannot imagine and could not achieve on your own.
God is Love and Love is the great healer...and so all you have to do-is ask-for the healing. What have you got to lose, except maybe-the option of divorce?!
Those words from one of my favorite actors, Will Smith. He told an interviewer that this time round...the "D" word is not in his vocabulary...and that attitude has worked well with his second wife, Jada Pinkett Smith.
I Love that attitude of gratitude...and I Love hearing it from a man. Because apparently the guys are going to need some help. The stats I'm looking at show more and more women consider divorce an option. According to one study commissioned by the AARP 66% of women in their 40's, 50's and beyond are hitting mid life and maneuvering themselves into a new way of life that no longer includes their men. Boredom, issues with sex and emotional distance are key factors...But long term abuse, infidelity and their husband's unresolved addiction problems still drive the women to court.
These days lots of women don't depend on their spouse for support like their peers in the "olden days"...So it's easier to send their partners packing...much to the shock of the guys who are often blindsided. The gals wait until the kids are older to minimize the damage...and maximize the rationalization that they've stuck it out long enough.
But here's the thing...the impact is never isolated...The men go into mourning...the grandparents into shock and the older children get the wind knocked out of them wondering, "If mom and dad can't make it-who can?"
Any way you look at it-from the guys to the gals-the messes we make in our marriages lead to the same, sad scenario...The dissolution of the family...and the erosion of the emotional fabric of our nation.
Breaking commitments breaks hearts and breaks down the backbone of society...Because once you accept a defeatist, give up attitude...the steady decay continues to erode every aspect of our lives.
There is only one solution...God...The healer of hearts and the hope for the hopeless. No matter how bad it gets, how hopeless you feel...God can and will-absolutely make things better...and better than you ever dreamed possible.
Simply, open your heart and surrender your will to his higher power...and the perfect manifestation of divine Love will be revealed to you and to your spouse in ways that you cannot imagine and could not achieve on your own.
God is Love and Love is the great healer...and so all you have to do-is ask-for the healing. What have you got to lose, except maybe-the option of divorce?!
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